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The tragedy of 4 year old Cesar "Ivan" Aguilar-Cano's murder hit home on Saturday, July 14, when Sr. Larraine Lauter, OSU talked to our Rebecca Rector outside Holy Name Catholic Church. "The family received the body," Lauter said. I was anchoring the 6pm news and those words just hit me in the heart. I am relieved that cameras were not allowed into Ivan's visitation and the vigil inside the church. The heartbreak in those words, "the family received the body," painted a vivid enough picture. Did they see his body for the first time since he went missing two weeks earlier? How does a parent cope with such a tragedy? I don't think journalists are insensitive to these tragedies, but we develop a certain protective distance after covering teens killed in drunk driving crashes, a child dying from a rare disease or in some freak accident. I have covered all of those stories and I would be lying if I said they don't affect me. I hug my sons a little tighter and a little longer some nights. They don't seem to mind. Grief is such a personal experience and the death of a child is a personal tragedy that is bound to stay with a parent each day the rest of their life. I learned this the hard way, talking to my grandmother, Clara Arnold, some fifty years after her son, Vernon, died from complications after a brain tumor was removed. Vernon Arnold, to me, was like a mythic or historical figure, someone whose name was on a grave marker but any sadness associated with his death must have faded long ago. So, I was somewhat cavalier asking about him one day, and my then 90 year old grandmother became transformed to a mother just coping with this loss. She sobbed. The pain must always be with those parents. Some people have criticized Ivan's mother, Rosalina, for a perceived lack of public grief, among other things. But an expert in Guatemalan culture tells my colleage, Melanie Snow, that stoicism is expected from mothers of dead children. When I talked to the family the day after Ivan's body was identified, his father raised his eyebrows and said simply "We're in shock." 7 CommentsLeave a comment |
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Obviously people here don't know what filing for political asslyum means.
Im sorry but maybe we should send everybody in this country that is not American Indian back to their homelands too!
That's probably the saddest thing I've ever heard. You're right, that simple statement speaks volumes. I, for one, don't have any animosity toward the mother wanting to return. I would want to come and see justice done for my child. In fact, I would be very suspicious of her innocence had she not wanted to return. In general, I probably have a more lenient attitude toward illegal immigrants than most of the population - they're just trying to make a better life for themselves and their families like we ALL are. I really see both sides of the illegal immigrant argument. But I do see this tragedy as one huge issue with illegal immigration that I hadn't even considered before. If we don't officially "know" these people are in the country, how do we bridge some of these cultural gaps and get them educated about some of these important culture differences? It's wonderful that children never get murdered in Guatemala. But that is just not the case here. This is life and death information that the people need to know whether they are here legally or otherwise.
My prayers go out to the family,this is a mothers worse
nightmare. But,,, my question is why Kentucky is even considering letting them come back to this country.
Did i misunderstand? Did i hear wrong? Or what?
When there is a warrant issued on you, and it is outstanding for 11 years,how could you find the nerve to ask to be able to come back.(THE NERVE)
If this was anyone else they would have been shipped the next day!!!
And chief White ---"oh please" he is just trying to make up for past mistakes in the public eyes.
Can anyone tell me how this mothers presence in this country is necessary for this case?
i feel that that charges should be brought against the mother for not watching her child and then be deported.
illegal immigrant and deportation warrant means you have to go...period!
I would like to say I'm sorry for this families lose. I'm a mother of two children the ages of 13 & 18. I still keep an eye on where thier at all the time. I would like to know where this mother was at when this child was taken? There is too many people out there that want to hurt our children and this is not her village, she is in america now, things here are different. If she's been here for 14 years she should know that by now. I've seen where woman in the United States are being accountable for leaveing kids alone. Why isn't this mother being accountable? You don't leave a four year old child alone anywhere. I don't care where you come from, it's just not done. If this child has wandered off before she should of kept a better eye on this child. If she had he still might be here. Forgive me for being harsh, but this is reality. Again I do feel for this family, I'm just stating a fact that probably so many people want to know like me.
Give her a bag of rice and ship her her husband and what is left of her son back to Guatemala and never let her come back Hopefully this is just a trick by the State of Kentucky to dispose of some trash If she was any kind of mother Her child would still be alive And then we could deport the entire family insted of 2&3/4 of the family
In regards to the comment from CF. I too am an American, and I believe it is unfair to comment and to criticize about something we no nothing about if we have not been through what Ivan's mother has been through. We don't know why she does not speak English, or Why she's burying her son in Guatemala, but is that what is really important here? Since this little boy Ivan went missing I thought the most important thing was finding the person who did this. And just to think he too might be an American, how do we consider that in the best interest of our Country?
Of course the death of a child is always trajic and I'm not trying to minimize the horror of this. I have several questions. Ivan is an American Citizen. Why is he being taken to Guatemala for burial? If his mother intends to return to the U.S. why would not she want her son buried in the U.S.? If she has lived in the U.S. for 14 years WHY has she not learned to speak ENGLISH? If she has "been so helpful with the investigation" why is she being permitted to leave before her son's killer is caught? Currently our country is involved in dealing with illegal immigrants. What kind of a message is this sending to other illegals? Many of my friends have asked the same question. I do not mean to be insensitive to Ivan's Mothers pain but I am an American who loves my country, who feels that this is not in the best interest of our country.