It starts at the top, doesn’t it? When my grandmother (the definite family matriarch) died just more than a year ago, I realized it was an end of an era for our family. But what I’ve realized since then is how much she guided who we all are today.

I see so many things that I do and believe that are “her” completely. And in the actions and reactions of my 17-year-old niece, I see the even more of the values and character an 87-year-old woman left behind.

Let me explain. My niece and I have a very special relationship and this is why. While her mother finished college, we all lived in the same house. I was a sophomore, my sister a junior, and Taylor just 3-years-old. I took her to daycare. I took her to kindergarten. And now, at least two to three times a week, I get calls from a now young woman keeping me up on all things teenager.

I realize over and over just how much she resembles my grandmother. She is graceful, responsible, and above all one of the most caring young people I’ve ever met.

Now, I know you’re thinking that I’m partial. And I am. But I’ve done my research. There are a lot of teenagers who are doing well like Taylor… but then so many others who seem to be lost and heading down what could be a difficult road.

I think we, as an entire family, have held Taylor in high regard and to very high standards. She knows she is respected and so far, she has not disappointed. And for an uncle, it is blessing to be the first or second person she calls when something good happens… or when something troubles her and she just needs to talk.

I’m realizing how much of an impact we as adults can have on these still formative lives. I see the benefit in a little nudge, a little encouragement and always, always an “I love you and I’m proud of you” at the end of the conversation.

Guess who was that person for me? You’re right, my grandmother. It all comes full circle, doesn’t it?

Thanks for listening to my ramblings. And to anyone who is special in your life, tell them and tell them often. They’ll listen and appreciate.