Someone needs a life coach and his initials are Brad Womack

Confession time. I have never watched an episode of ABC’s, The Bachelor. I’m more of a Lost, Heroes or CSI kind of guy. But yesterday morning everyone was talking about the season finale of the show where Brad Womack, a young entrepreneur from Austin, Texas, turned down not one but two beautiful women. Evidently this is the first time in the shows run that a guy couldn’t make a decision and sent both ladies packing.

Last night, my daughter and her friend were home from college and we all watched the wrap up show. Brad got to face his former love interests for the first time since the show ended over two months ago. As I watched the recap of the last show, I was amazed at how casual he was in dismissing the girls. Then to see him face them last night and not offer a valid excuse on why he didn’t pick either of them was frustrating. I had a lot of compassion for both DeAnna and Jenni. But I especially felt for Jenni – she was led to believe that he would choose her. On the day he was to choose he told her to “hang in there” and that "today would be a good day for her." Regretfully, Brad offered no concrete explanations. He actually whispered to her as they separated one final time, “I wish we could still be together.” Blah, blah, blah.

Well brad, I sure wish you were my client! Here’s what I would work on with you…

1. Honesty – First off, you have to understand that even though this was a “game show” there were real girls involved. They actually had feelings. Every time you led them on, touched them, kissed them and gave them hope without the ability to deliver you were putting aside your integrity. You told the two girls that you cared for them yet it was nothing more than attraction.

2. Stop Making Excuses – You did not do anything noble in that last episode. You choose the easy way out and still have no real answers to their questions. If you enjoy your single life then you should have never been on the show. These women trusted you, and as a result they need more than an apology. They need an answer that has at least a ring of truth to it.

3. Make Up Your Mind – It seems you really do not want to be married. If that’s the case come clean with it. The guy I saw on the wrap up show last night obliviously enjoys the ability to be free in dating. If could not choose a future Mrs. Womack because you still have a wild side let ‘em know that.

4. Grow A Pair – Stop being wishy-washy Brad. A real man has the ability to honor a woman and not mislead her and initiates when she needs clarity and information. You should do the noble thing – figure out what really is going on in your heart and let both women know. That would take courage and the journey would be painful but you would be a better man for the effort.

I know that’s pretty harsh but come on, the lack of authentic manhood is everywhere. I know it was just a game, but what an opportunity this guy had to be a leader and a lover. I want to see a man on this show that will play this game with integrity, keep his character and respect these women enough to not manipulate them along the way to get an emotional and physical stroke to his ego or some other part of his body.

So, I catch this finale while channel surfing and the train wreck is just too big to look away. The guy who apparently has every advantage gets set up on television with the opportunity to choose a woman out of the best stock prime time has to offer. In the end he doesn't want to take one of these television women as his wife and the audience is pissed. Is it just because they all identify with the poor girls who decided to try their luck at a game show dating service? Let's be realistic about this.

If the bachelor were a balding forty-something with a beer gut and poor fashion sense and the female contestants looked like the latest Jerry Springer guests this wouldn't be much of a show. So, let's just accept the fact that it's made for TV and that you can't script happy endings for real people. He reached the end of the show and wasn't in love with the women who desperately wanted their prime time man.

His decision doesn't surprise me at all. When people have that many options in life and love they tend to be selfish about it and lose focus. He's got the money and the looks and if you think he had the close attention of women before the show just consider the new publicity. Wherever this guy travels there will inevitably be interested women who will 'fall in love' regardless of whether or not he's labeled a heart-breaker. Exactly how is any of it going to feel genuine if he isn't head-over-heels convinced himself?

Also, I can't take the audience anger seriously. If you gender flipped this situation not only would there be no sympathy for the dismissed gentlemen but you'd probably see another season of money-fame-female hunting men after the same woman who just dropped the last 25 with a hair flip and grin for the camera. In the end he gave an honest and simple reason for his decision. After all of that TV arranged dating he didn't love either of the finalists and therefore did not want an ongoing relationship. Why is that difficult for viewers to grasp?

Enjoy the bachelor life man. Your fortune is secure, your sack time is guaranteed and there are a lot of women out there. Don't pay attention to the critics. They're living in the fantasy world of your life on this show.