Kabul is a safe city. Our media reports tend to highlight the incidents of IEDs or the like, but those events are more the exception than the rule. Kabul is also the center for NATO / ISAF command. Our allies have sold this war as a peace keeping or policing action to their respective publics. As a result, NATO / ISAF goes to great lengths to over ensure safety, even in the city like Kabul. The US now falls under NATO/ ISAF command so for me that meant that the rules imposed on the US military were so strict that it was nearly impossible for them to guarantee a military pickup from the airport. I knew this before I came and therefore arranged to be picked up by an interpreter that had worked for a close friend of mine who was also a Major in the US Army National Guard.

With my bags now successfully moved from the customs point to the parking area, the two men I had hired waited. I used their phone and called my ride. He was on his way. Since I had never met him, I described my clothing and waited. As the time passed, the baggage handler called him again, speaking to him in Pashtun. A short time later my ride arrived. He greeted me along with his friend and we began moving my bags to his car. It was then that I discovered that he was not the interpreter but the interpreter's brother. I found myself suddenly cautious, recounting my steps since I had arrived. I had spoken to the interpreter only twenty minutes before. He had assured me he would be there. Now I was being told that he was in Kandahar, not even in Kabul. My mind was racing, as I began to strategize my options.

I began asking questions through casual conversation as we loaded my bags into his car. I didn't want to seem suspicious, only a bit overwhelmed with the trip. I chose questions that would be difficult to answer if he was not in fact related. He opened the passenger door, and asked me to get in. His responses to my questions were beginning to allay my caution, but I still wasn't sure. As we drove from the airport with his friend seated behind me, he handed me his phone, "It is my brother. He wants to talk to you."

Traveling in a country like Afghanistan you have to accept that everything has a price. Rooted in tribal loyalties and individual survival, it is a place where trust can be swayed by threat or by monetary bribe, especially if you are a Westerner. I took the phone from the brother and was greeted by the voice of the person I had spoken to when I first arrived. "Hello, brother. How are you? I am so very sorry for not being able to meet you. My mother is sick in Kandahar. I sent my brother in my place to welcome you to my country. I hope your arrival was without issue and that my brother is treating you well." I could feel myself relax as we continued our drive to the brother's office for tea.

In the traditions of Afghanistan, a guest is seen as a gift from god. Once a guest is taken in, no matter if he comes from an unfriendly tribe, it becomes the responsibility of host to protect him for the remainder of his stay. The confusion at the airport began to make sense. The interpreter had promised to pick me up prior to my arrival. Though he had been called away the day prior, to say that he could not pick me up, would have been an insult to god. So he sent his blood brother in his place. In the Afghan way, this was a gesture of great respect; as I would be told later by the interpreter's brother himself, "I do not know you, but as a friend of my brother, you too are my brother, and I will protect you the same."

We arrived at the brother's office at the edge of Kabul. I was lead to the upper floor, through the open stairwell; a dusty corridor of white walls and grey steps. At the top we followed the edge of an inner balcony that looked down into an interior court yard. The interior of the building was run down, covered with the fine talc like dust that becomes part of everything you wear and own. As we entered through the last door on the right, I was directed to sofa where I sat as additional friends came in to say hello. If there is one element of Afghan culture I admire it is simple elegance of the ancient ways of hospitality.

We talked. Tea was made and served. We moved to the adjacent room, as more tea and small snacks of dried dates and nuts were brought in. I was asked if I would like to share in lunch, and I agreed. As I nodded yes, I suddenly realized that all that were present were in the middle of their annual fast for Ramazon. I quickly recanted and told the brother that I could not eat out of respect for their fast. He simply smiled, "You are our guest, I have already sent for food. Please have some more tea."

We continued to talk, and get to know each other. After an hour or so, a lunch of stewed lamb, rice, the traditional flat bread and fresh grapes were served. I sat and ate awkwardly, fully aware that all of this had been prepared solely for me. The others smiled, and reminded me that they would eat after sunset.

With another serving of tea, we closed the afternoon. I was given a cell phone as a welcome gift so that I could remain in touch and let the brother know I was safe. I called the Public Affairs Officer at Camp Phoenix to inform him I was on my way. We descended the stairs returning to the car loaded with my bags. The brother wished me well, but stayed behind to prepare the evening meal. Guided by two of his friends, we drove to Camp Phoenix where they parked, each carrying one of my bags to the front gate. As I said my goodbyes, I was handed a large bag of dried nuts and dates. "Take care my brother. Let us know if you need anything."

We shook hands, and I entered through the turnstile gate, welcomed by two New York Army National Guard soldiers waiting on the other side.

2 Comments

JoAnne said:

Hi Scott, Your blog came up in a google search I have set up because our son in law is at Phoenix over there too. He works for the Dept of Defense and is in a civilian job for 6 months. His name is Terry Johnson, should you happen to run into him. I know he eats in the dining hall, but otherwise pretty much hangs in his B Hut with the other 2 DOD guys there with him. They all work 12 hr shifts and 7 days/week doing QA stuff.

Hope you capture some good pictures and info on what's happening over there now. I know it sounds like things are escalating on the border.

Stay safe and GOD bless you.

JoAnne

October 11, 2008 1:00 PM

pat said:

the city is safe but is the countryside secure as well

October 11, 2008 11:32 PM

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